tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3315362878779713003.post8485803775777783492..comments2024-01-09T03:55:13.660-06:00Comments on Let's talk about books: Do books influence relationshipsErikahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07324959769938621317noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3315362878779713003.post-42155242929050300412011-10-07T22:37:31.086-05:002011-10-07T22:37:31.086-05:00New follower too!New follower too!Erikahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07324959769938621317noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3315362878779713003.post-18188437705893254542011-10-07T22:37:10.727-05:002011-10-07T22:37:10.727-05:00I love this article! I don't really think book...I love this article! I don't really think books only influence our relationships, I do think fairy tales, movies, music and tv shows do too. I do know too many girls looking for their Edward. When I was a teen, I knew many girls who wouldn't date nice average guys because they were holding out for someone "hot like Nick Carter". <br /><br />I love that you met your husband at 16. I met my husband at 13 and loved him right away. It was a friendship that grew into love quickly. We didn't get married till we turned 25.<br /><br />Great post! <br /><br />http://deadtreesandsilverscreens.blogspot.com/Erikahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07324959769938621317noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3315362878779713003.post-14723303194970548012011-09-11T00:38:44.628-05:002011-09-11T00:38:44.628-05:00Hmmm... I can honestly say that only time will tel...Hmmm... I can honestly say that only time will tell. I couldn't help but think of my current relationship/marriage when I saw your question. But I think this question is best answered 5-10 years from now when we ask look at whether or not it lasted. <br /><br />My parents were high school sweethearts and 25 years later...they are still together. So I know that people can fall in love at that age and last. So many don't though. <br /><br />I don't think books affected my choice and my relationship because I feel like I've always been able to separate reality and fiction. I thought everyone could but I have since learned (while teaching high school & while working with domestic violence victims) that many really can't.<br /><br />So my answer is...it depends.Reflectionsofabookaholicnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3315362878779713003.post-33843971635416458252011-09-10T15:40:26.119-05:002011-09-10T15:40:26.119-05:00Great and thoughtful post... I personally like boo...Great and thoughtful post... I personally like books where the love evolves throughout the story rather than love at first sight. Love at first sight only works if it's "mandatory" - they have some supernatural connection or something. But even then it won't satisfy me as much as a gradual relationship that intensifies over time and trials. I'm another one of those people that met my husband young. I was 17 and we've together 8 years now, so it does happen, but it's definitely not the norm. If I look back at myself when I was young, I don't think it effected me much. I did and still do fangirl crush, but I've always known that it's just a story and sometimes things aren't as romantic or don't happen the same way. UNFORTUNATELY! <br /><br />I'm one of those people who didn't enjoy the Twilight series much and this is basically the reason why. The love story wasn't believable to me. It was too quick and too intense. It felt like lust more love. But Bella and Jacob - I felt that their relationship would have made a much more believable love outcome. <br /><br />I do think that romance in books makes me expect certain things, but nothing that I'm not worth receiving. There's a balance, but overall I'd rather girls know they deserve something great instead of something halfass just to fit in or not be lonely. I'd want my daughter to expect a man who loves her passionately and she loves back! But I wouldn't want her to think that is something that happens overnight... Because it doesn't. Not saying that lust at first sight cannot develop into love over time though!Book Crook Lizahttp://bookcrookliza.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.com